My mother always signed her cards, and notes to me, Mum. I don't know why but this bothered me, because at school I learned to spell it Mom.
I insisted for her whole life of addressing my cards, and notes, and letters to her as Mom.
What a snot I was.
So, fast forward to the current year and my daughter who always addresses her letters and cards to me as Mum.
My son, always uses Mom.
So, I am both. I sign my cards to my daughter as Mum, and my cards to my son as Mom.
I kinda like this. It is a tangible example that I have a unique relationship with each of my children.
In my life I have many titles: Mrs. Taylor to my students, Mary-Anne to most of my friends, Mary to my husband, my brother, and my dear childhood friend, Auntie Mary-Mann to some of my nieces and nephews, and lately Me-Ann to my adopted grand-daughter, Mum, or Mumma to my daughter, Mom to my son.
I am a sister, a wife, a mother, a friend, a sister-in-law, a teacher, an aunt, a great-aunt, a cousin, a daughter (although now orphaned), a niece and at one time a daughter-in-law (also now orphaned).
So many titles. I have probably missed a few others.
Each of us has so many relationships wrapped up within us, and around us.
I like that I have different names to different people in my life.
Because each of those relationships is unique and our way of naming each other is a part of it.
So in the future, when I speak of my Mum, I will honour her by calling her by the name she wanted.
Because that is the least I can do.